Sign #7. Your Instincts are saying get out:
As a general rule, voices inside you are there for a reason, and they ought to be listened to. Sometimes an inner voice may tell us that we've found our soul mate but attimes a voice within us is whispering (or even screaming) that we’re dating the wrong person. If this is the case for you, then you will be threading on a cobra's tail to ignore that voice. Give it a free reign and let it direct you to the conclusion you may have already come to.
Sign #8.They never need personal space
There are times in our lives when we just need to be alone or take some time off the hustling and bustling of life or even have a sincere introspection about ourselves. It is always expected that our partner should be sensitive to this. But if they get upset/suspicious/offended, and very insensitive to your need or when you express the need for one, then it is a sign that you may be plying the wrong route.
Sign #9.They’re never genuinely sorry.
When we offend or grief each other in a relationship, the most logical and undaunted action you expect is the phrase "I am sorry". if your partner finds it hard to use this phrase at any given time or even when they do apologize, they still try to convince you they were right. It's a red flag!
Sign #10.They use the phrase “If it weren't for me…” a little too often.
Basically, they act like they’re doing you some kind of favor by being with you. Relationships are meant to be enjoyed and not endured. Nobody should make you feel less of yourself or that he/she is doing you a big favor by being with you. Friends! reality is, you are worth a gold mine (be you man or woman) and should be loved for who you are. Any action short of this is not worth it please!
Sign #11. You can’t depend on them.
Life has taught us not to depend or rely on people when it comes to emergencies but there are exceptions especially in the case of your partner, they are meant to be there for you at all times! But if/when exigencies occur, they never cross your mind as the first point of call because you already know they probably wont answer the phone or respond to the distress call; then you already know what the sign is.
There are times that we already know the truth within us but just need a second-third party to point it out to us. It could also be that at this point, you really don’t know whether you are dating the wrong person. If so, then you may want to continue the relationship for a while longer so you two can explore whether you should be together or not. Relationships often take time to achieve their full potential. But you may determine to date someone you should definitely not be dating, If so then you need to be brave enough to do what you need to do.
My final note on this is that we all deserve to be happy in our relationships. Find that person who treats you like a queen/king. Someone who makes you happy and feel good about yourself at all times. Someone who makes you a fulfilled person and completes you in-spite of your weaknesses and strengths. Someone who, when you are really honest with yourself, you know deserves to become that special person in your life.Of course, you can't rule out the high and low moments in every relationship but these are meant to solidify the union and not the other-way round. When you find that person, you will have the peace and happiness you have always yearned for.
All the best and stay blessed.
8 comments:
Nice piece, wat we have everywhere dis days is just crap on relationships, but dis is good stuff. Keep it up.
Marian, I think you should write on:
(1) how to mend relationships, especially the broken ones.
(2) how to love and the things we need to do to woo the woman/man we'd love to be with.
(3) relationship with other ethnic background, how to overcome the cultural barrier
Have you ever heard the saying; "love without language"?
Keep up the good job
I think you've nailed this down. People are often so infatuated or carried away that they fail to see the signs. In some cases, the signs are obvious but the person lives in self-denial. It's always best to get out once a relationship has run its course, painful as it may be. It's always more painful if unduly prolonged plus more time would have been wasted on an unprofitable relationship.
Wondering...do I need to see one or all of these signs before I bounce? Men are definitely crazy these days #RME#
These are the kind of conversations we need to have on a daily basis...Keep it up, you rock!!!
Thanks for dis ,it really help
Keep it up. You are just awesome!
Kip d gud wrk going...this is jst wonderful! It will really help many pple dt are going astray.
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