Should you or Shouldn't you?

Hi Guys! I got this in my mail box and I decided to throw it open to my many intelligent readers out here! 

"Should you open your can of worms (past)to your intended spouse on your first date?"

       Peeps over to you o!

LIFE LESSONS FROM ANTS

Everything around us has a lesson to offer, be it animate or inanimate object. It’s only a matter of time before we realize their importance. Once in a while you should take some time off your busy and tight schedules; turn off that computer, tablet, iPod or Mp3/4 and learn to appreciate your surroundings and all the works of nature. You might just get an inspiration from observing some of the things around you.

Go to the ants, consider her ways and imbibe her culture. Ants are brilliant creatures in every sense and they seem to be very organized under their respective rulings. Not many creatures display such a large systematic colony. I am not an animal expert but by jolty observation, there are several lessons to be learnt from the ants.

1. Ants teach us to be brave
There is no height ants cannot attained, no route it cannot ply, no matter how rough or challenging it may be, ants will surely find an escape. Have you ever wondered how an ant crawled up your body? This shows the level of bravery the ants possess. The average human is obviously more than 500 times the size of an ant, yet we get terrified at the sights of little challenges. Some of us even screech at the sight of a cockroach. Yes size doesn't matter and of course we know that there are some really difficult situations that are beyond human comprehension, but let's take a clue from the immense bravery of a tiny ant. So why can't we devote more intensity on the problems we are facing and get the best out of it? As the ants teach us that no matter how terrifying things may look up ahead, you should never chicken out!

2. Ants teach us to ignore little diversions
No matter the obstacle on an ant's path, it ignores it and forges on. For example if you put your finger on the path of an ant, it just walks around it and soldiers on to where it’s heading. Put another obstacle in its way and it still manoeuvers and presses on towards its destination. You should do the same and not let silly problems and conflicts get on your way of achieving your objectives. If you’re doing your homework or in the office or on a very important assignment, don’t let that silly pop up or notification divert you to endless hours of pointless social media browsing.

3. Ants teach us that knowledge should be shared
Whenever an ant discovers a base of food, it informs others to share in it (success). Ants leave chemical trails that allow their colleagues to trace their path to success (food). The same thing applies to us when it comes to knowledge. You might have a great capacity for accumulating and storing information in your photographic brain but if unshared, it won’t develop more from there onward.  Discussion accelerates the development of knowledge which could be beneficial to mankind.

4. Ants teach us to adapt to our surroundings
Ants can be found just about anywhere. Move into a new house, walk through a forest or climb over a mountain you will find them there. It’s amazing how they've managed to get the most out of living with human beings.  Ants know where to search for resources and you should do the same. Be quick to adapt to your surrounding and don’t wait for a wake-up call. When things around you change, learn to adapt and make the best out of it.

       Facts about Ants:

• Ants are self motivated
• Ants are extremely organized
• Ants run far away once they smell danger. 
• Ants understand their gifts and work within their specific abilities
• Ants build together
• Ants have great insight and single focus
• Ants help and share with others
• Ants are team players
• Ants are hard workers
• Ants take rest seriously
• Ants understand timing

"Achievers dig before they become thirsty, but average people wait for thirst before they dig".
If you can conceive it, you can achieve it!! Dont be a nonentity, go for your dreams today and I wish you the very best! Chao

#Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Person! (Part 2)

Wow! The responses I got from the part 1 of this write-up was mind-blowing! My email was overflowing with comments and questions. This has made me to quickly finish up with the second part of it. Thank you all and enjoy the concluding part! 

Sign #7. Your Instincts are saying get out: 
As a general rule, voices inside you are there for a reason, and they ought to be listened to. Sometimes an inner voice may tell us that we've found our soul mate but attimes a voice within us is whispering (or even screaming) that we’re dating the wrong person. If this is the case for you, then you will be threading on a cobra's tail to ignore that voice. Give it a free reign and let it direct you to the conclusion you may have already come to.

Sign #8.They never need personal space
There are times in our lives when we just need to be alone or take some time off the hustling and bustling of life or even have a sincere introspection about ourselves. It is always expected that our partner should be sensitive to this. But if they get upset/suspicious/offended, and very insensitive to your need or when you express the need for one, then it is a sign that you may be plying the wrong route.

Sign #9.They’re never genuinely sorry.

When we offend or grief each other in a relationship, the most logical and undaunted action you expect is the phrase "I am sorry". if your partner finds it hard to use this phrase at any given time or even when they do apologize, they still try to convince you they were right. It's a red flag!

Sign #10.They use the phrase “If it weren't for me…” a little too often. 

Basically, they act like they’re doing you some kind of favor by being with you. Relationships are meant to be enjoyed and not endured. Nobody should make you feel less of yourself or that he/she is doing you a big favor by being with you. Friends! reality is, you are worth a gold mine (be you man or woman) and should be loved for who you are. Any action short of this is not worth it please! 

Sign #11. You can’t depend on them.
Life has taught us not to depend or rely on people when it comes to emergencies but there are exceptions especially in the case of your partner, they are meant to be there for you at all times! But if/when exigencies occur, they never cross your mind as the first point of call because you already know they probably wont answer the phone or respond to the distress call; then you already know what the sign is.

Sign #12. You Already know the Truth     
There are times that we already know the truth within us but just need a second-third party to point it out to us. It could also be that at this point, you really don’t know whether you are dating the wrong person. If so, then you may want to continue the relationship for a while longer so you two can explore whether you should be together or not. Relationships often take time to achieve their full potential. But you may determine to date someone you should definitely not be dating, If so then you need to be brave enough to do what you need to do.

My final note on this is that we all deserve to be happy in our relationships. Find that person who treats you like a queen/king. Someone who makes you happy and feel good about yourself at all times. Someone who makes you a fulfilled person and completes you in-spite of your weaknesses and strengths. Someone who, when you are really honest with yourself, you know deserves to become that special person in your life.Of course, you can't rule out the high and low moments in every relationship but these are meant to solidify the union and not the other-way round.  When you find that person, you will have the peace and happiness you have always yearned for. 

All the best and stay blessed.

#Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Person! (Part 1)

Guys I have been getting some mails bothering on dating and relationships. I have put up a little write-up on the signs you should take note of, if in a wrong relationship!

Sign #1. You are not Happy:
Someone who is happy in his/her relationship consistently enjoys and feels a general sense of happiness in the relationship. There would be occasional argument here and there even the healthiest couples do but generally speaking, a person who is in the right relationship is going to be happy. So if you find yourself unhappy most of the time – and especially when you’re with your partner – then that’s a fairly clear sign that it may not be the best person for you.

Sign #2. You don't feel Good about Yourself: 
In addition to feeling happy, you are confidence of yourself.Sure, you may have doubts and insecurities attimes but the time spent with you partner erases every doubt. In contrast, if your partner exacerbates your self doubts and undermines your confidence, then that’s a major red flag! You want someone who celebrates the greatness in you not someone who wrecks your self confidence and torpedoes your every attempt at growth.

Sign #3. The People you trust Urge you to get out: 
Everybody around you (trusted people) cant be  wrong if they are urging/telling you to get out! Of course, there are times you could be blinded to the reality surrounding your relationship because of your feelings but people around will see farther than you are and may not possibly lead you astray. 

Sign #4. You find yourself constantly thinking about someone else: 
You cannot be happy in a relationship and constantly think of your ex or a crush or secretly wishing you were with someone else. Regardless, if this is your case, then that’s a sure-fire sign that your current relationship is not all it should be.

Sign #5. You find yourself Denying the fact you know to be True:
I know we all find ourselves in the dilemma, where we just cant bring ourselves to see or admit something negative about our partners. If you are denying the facts or reality about your relationship that you know to be true, then you are probably not in the right one.

Sign #6. The Cons of staying Together outweighs the Pros: 
Write down the advantages and disadvantages of being in the relationship.If in comparison, you discover that the reasons to stay together are more compelling than the reasons to break up. But if the opposite appears to be the case, then let logic be your guide.

to be cont'd

June is here!!!

Tick! Tick!! Tack! Tack!!

I remembered as a young girl in the nursery, we had a rhyme that says:

Tick says the clock

Tick! Tick!

What you have to do

Do Quick!!! 

Six months down the year 2013, Six more to go! This is a wake up call that what you have to do (the dreams, visions, aspirations and goals), has to be done in time. Time waits for nobody and time is life. God bless you

Living Healthy

Hey guys we have come to the end of another great month. Why not live a healthy lifestyle by giving this a shot in the new month!

Swagger or Madness

Guys what do you think about this? I cant stop laughing...Lol

From "Nothing to Something"

For the revelation awaits an appointed time, it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay.

Have a fulfilling day

Staying Positive!

As you step out today, dwell on these words and stay positive.

Have a stress free and productive day!

DO THIS BEFORE YOU HIT 35 YEARS!

1. Begin to put money in the Bank and learn to leave it there.

2. Date the right person

3. Get your own place and stop having room-mates.

4. Get out of debt.

5. Get that body you always dreamed of and maintain it.

6. Surround yourself with people that will take you a step ahead.

7. Start to accumulate a fortune and wealth.

8. Learn to dress well not sexy.

9. Accept that you are an adult and start living as one.

10. Let go the past and look forward to the future.

Have a good day friends!